Independency - a boon

Dependency has become a part of our skin. This journey initially started with dependency in dire need. Gradually, it extended to laziness and also to give the feelings of superiority. Dependency turned on the nature of pleasing people and slavery system. This lead to loss of respect and we forgot the art of saying no. Now to be independent, a great force is required to cross the old beliefs as it gets pulled by the common perception of people who gives the right action feeling. Dependency made us feel that we need to keep people in our hands to get help whenever and wherever required and the only method is to please them is to bow down sacrificing our wishes. So when we start setting boundaries, the great challenge comes in the very first step where we feel that we are not doing right as we have gone  far away from us . We are not habituated in taking care of ourselves and feel comfortable to be cared by others. We have perceived it to be an easy method. We aren't confident that we can do things independently. So in order to please others, we start participating in their wrong actions. We do not dare to say anything as they may feel bad and stop talking or helping. So insecured we are. Firstly we lose our energy and then we try to fill it taking from external sources. This is the loop of dependency. Now, when we take risk to take the first step to say no ,we are getting aligned with the laws of karma and universe. We not only save our energy but also help others to save theirs. A secret bonding occurs in relationships with a harmonious flow of good vibes purifying the environment. This is a boon.